Embracing Vulnerability: A Journey to Release Shame

Shame is a powerful and complex emotion. It hides in the corners of our minds, making us think our authentic self is not acceptable. This deeply rooted fear of not being liked or accepted then causes the real you to hide, resulting in self-imposed exile. But here's the truth: you are not alone in feeling this way.

I spent the first half of my life struggling with shame. Only when I owned, faced, and worked through it did I overcome it. It’s what has made me passionate about helping people connect with their Purpose, Vision & Mission. 

The Impact of Shame

Shame is the single biggest cause of failure to make the connection between our true self and our purpose. The result is a lack of fulfilment. If you are grappling with the same sense of unworthiness, it's time to give your shame notice to quit. 

Shame has been a topic of interest in psychology and psychotherapy for years. Freud's belief was that shame is linked to feelings of inadequacy or guilt. Jung and Erikson, who coined the term 'identity crisis', expanded our understanding of how people develop their moral values and sense of self.

Here are seven keys to ending your shame.

Understanding the role of the Mask:

It's the fear that who we are at our core is flawed and unworthy

of love and acceptance. We wear this mask because we

believe it protects us from judgment and criticism. In reality, it

only traps us in a cycle of frustration and unfulfilled dreams. 

Identifying the Roots of Shame:

As discussed in my previous post, shame often originates from early experiences, such as childhood trauma, neglect, or perceived criticism. These experiences plant the seeds of self-doubt, making us believe we are not good enough. Over time, this internalised shame becomes a barrier to living an authentic life.

Unmasking Your True Self:

The first step to overcoming shame and unmask your true self is to acknowledge it. By recognising you are not alone in feeling this way, you can begin to dismantle the walls you've built around your authentic self.

Building Self-Compassion:

Shame thrives on self-criticism and self-judgment. To

overcome it, you must learn to practise self-compassion. Be

kind to yourself and recognise your imperfections make you

uniquely human. Self-compassion enables you to embrace

your true self, flaws and gifts alike. This is also the key to

Vulnerability and Authenticity:

Embracing vulnerability is a crucial part of unmasking your true

self. It takes courage to be authentic, knowing the world might

not always respond positively. But it's in those moments of

vulnerability that we connect with others on a deep,

meaningful level. It's where genuine relationships and

fulfilment are born.

Letting Go of Secrecy:

I’ve said this many times but, shame needs the oxygen of

secrecy to survive. The more you keep your true self hidden,

the more power shame has over you. Begin by sharing your

authentic self with trusted friends, family, or a therapist to

release the grip of secrecy. People generally respond with

empathy and understanding, challenging the belief that the

world won't accept the authentic you.

Reclaiming Your Power:

As you unmask your true self and let go of the shame that is holding you back, you'll discover your unique gifts and talents. You are not flawed; you are a work in progress, like everyone else. Embrace your authenticity and watch as you come alive in ways you never thought possible.