Nurturing The Inner Voice

We spend so much time thinking about our relationships with others—partners, kids, friends, coworkers. We analyse texts, plan date nights, and worry about what our boss really thinks of us. But how often do we pause to ask: What is my relationship with myself like? For many, the answer is complicated, sometimes even neglectful. We check in with everyone else but forget to check in with the one person who is always there: ourselves. If your relationship with yourself were a movie, it might be more “ghosting” than “happily ever after.”

Think about the best relationships in your life—the ones where you feel safe, valued, and understood. Now imagine creating that same connection with yourself. This is the foundation of mental wellness: an inner relationship built on trust, self-compassion, and kindness.

When you neglect this relationship, it shows up in ways you might not recognise. You might experience constant self-criticism, burnout, trouble setting boundaries, or find it hard to enjoy life fully. On the other hand, nurturing this relationship builds resilience, confidence, and a deep sense of self-worth. Having your own back is far more reliable than waiting for a text back.

Signs You Need to Strengthen Your Relationship with Yourself

• Your inner voice sounds like a mean internet troll  

  If your self-talk is full of criticism and harsh judgment, it’s time for a rewrite. Instead of tearing yourself down, try speaking to yourself as you would to a close friend.

• You struggle to be alone  

  If silence makes you uncomfortable or anxious, it might be a sign that there’s inner work to be done. Learning to enjoy your own company is a powerful step toward self-acceptance.

• You ignore your own needs  

  Putting everyone else first leaves you feeling drained and resentful. Remember, you’re not a phone battery—you can’t keep running on 1% forever. Prioritize your needs without guilt.

• You rely on external validation  

  Your worth shouldn’t depend on likes, praise, or whether someone remembers your name correctly. True confidence comes from within, not from outside approval.

How to Build a Better Relationship with Yourself

Practice Self-Compassion

Treat yourself with the same kindness you offer others. When you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up. Instead, acknowledge your feelings and remind yourself that everyone struggles sometimes.

Set Healthy Boundaries

Learn to say no when you need to. Protect your time and energy by setting limits with others. This shows respect for yourself and helps prevent burnout.

Spend Time Alone

Schedule regular moments to be by yourself without distractions. Use this time to reflect, meditate, or simply breathe. This helps you reconnect with your inner voice.

Challenge Negative Self-Talk

When you notice harsh thoughts, pause and question them. Are they really true? Replace them with balanced, supportive statements. For example, change “I always mess up” to “I’m learning and growing every day.”

Celebrate Your Wins

No matter how small, acknowledge your achievements. Celebrating progress builds confidence and reinforces a positive inner dialogue.

Practical Examples to Try Today

• Journal your thoughts  

  Write down what you’re feeling without judgment. This helps you understand your inner voice and identify patterns.

• Create a self-care routine  

  Dedicate time each day to activities that nourish you, whether it’s reading, walking, or enjoying a hobby.

• Use affirmations  

  Start your day with positive statements like “I am enough” or “I deserve kindness.” Repeat them when you need a boost.

• Practice mindfulness  

  Focus on the present moment without judgment. This reduces stress and helps you connect with your true self.

The Impact of a Strong Inner Relationship

When you nurture your relationship with yourself, you become more resilient in the face of challenges. You develop confidence that doesn’t depend on others’ opinions. You also enjoy life more fully because you’re not constantly battling self-doubt or exhaustion.

Building this relationship takes time and effort, but the rewards are worth it. You become your own best friend, supporter, and guide. That kind of connection is the foundation for lasting wellbeing.